Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Motivation: The Battle of 'Doing What You Love'

From a young age, I harbored a deep passion for fashion. I immersed myself in Vogue editorials, imagining a future as a photoshoot concept creator, writer, or even a model. However, growing up in a small town devoid of creative industry connections, I believed that nurturing my passion was solely a private endeavor, devoid of monetary rewards.

As adulthood approached, I embraced the role of a creative director and subsequently signed with a modeling agency. What once seemed like a distant dream became my daily reality. I reveled in the challenges of conceptualizing ideas and being in front of the camera.

Initially, I experienced immense passion and fulfillment. However, over time, my work gradually transformed into an obsessive pursuit. External rewards became the driving force behind my endeavors, and my identity became inextricably linked to my work.

The Journey from Dream to Dread:

After a few years, the spark that once ignited my passion had dwindled. Gratification eluded me, and I yearned for a career that allowed me to make a meaningful impact on others' lives. I transitioned to volunteering at a transitional housing center and pursued graduate studies to become a therapist. While this new path excited me, I couldn't shake the secret fear of hitting the same wall again.

The Head versus The Heart: Extrinsic versus Intrinsic Motivation:

The conflict between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation is a complex one. The popular adage, "Do what you love and never work a day in your life," is often misleading. What starts as a passion can easily transform into just a job.

Extrinsic motivation is driven by external rewards like paychecks or promotions. While it can be a powerful motivator, it can also lead to obsessive passion and negative feelings about work.

On the other hand, intrinsic motivation arises from the pure enjoyment of an activity. It fosters increased learning, creativity, and psychological well-being. Harmonious passion, driven by an internal desire, aligns with intrinsic motivation.

When intrinsic motivation shifts towards extrinsic motivation, a significant mindset change occurs. Activities that were once enjoyable can become tedious and research-like.

Can We Truly Make a Living Doing What We Love?

Seeking insights on this topic, I engaged in a conversation with Los Angeles-based photographer Magdalena Wosinska. She expressed a preference for non-commercial projects, where she could express her artistic vision without financial incentives. However, she also acknowledged the joy of being paid to do what she loves.

Magdalena's experience underscores the highly personal nature of "doing what you love." Kim Bielak, an associate marriage and family therapist and former career coach, emphasized the uniqueness of individual experiences.

Making Your Passion Work:

Magdalena emphasized the importance of boundaries. By setting aside time for personal engagement with your passion without expecting monetary rewards, you can rekindle your excitement and passion.

Kim Bielak concurred, suggesting that pursuing passions as careers necessitates boundaries to prevent burnout. Allowing yourself time and space to engage with your passion purely for personal fulfillment is crucial.

What Employers Can Do to Sustain Intrinsic Motivation:

Creating workplaces that prioritize employee well-being and setting boundaries to prevent overburdening teams are vital steps to sustaining intrinsic motivation.

Employer support in setting boundaries is paramount to preventing valuable talent from leaving purpose-driven roles due to burnout.

You Can Do What You Love and Love What You Do:

Today, I work as a psychotherapist and write about mental health, with a focus on supporting creatives of color. By setting clear boundaries and prioritizing breaks, I can avoid the all-encompassing nature of my previous work and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

It is possible to find a harmonious balance where you can pursue your passion as a career while maintaining boundaries and personal well-being.