We All Get Loneliness—What to Do When You Feel It

Loneliness is a common human experience. Every Friday, host Minaa B., a social and mental health educator, and author of "Owning Our Struggles," features experts, wellness practitioners, and individuals with lived experiences about community care and its impact on mental health.

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Regardless of who we are or where we are, there are times when we feel lonely. These feelings can be short-lived, but for some, they can be more persistent and have a significant impact on mental and physical well-being.

Understanding Loneliness

Loneliness is often described as a subjective feeling of isolation, a gap between the social connection we desire and the connection we perceive we have. It can be a complex experience triggered by various factors and life events.

Types of Loneliness

• Social Loneliness: A sense of isolation from others, feeling like you don't belong anywhere
• Romantic Loneliness: A feeling of abandonment or exclusion, often resulting from the loss of a loved one or a significant relationship
• Existential Loneliness: A feeling of isolation from the rest of the world, questioning the meaning of life and one's place in it

Health Effects of Loneliness

• Increased stress
• Cardiovascular disease
• Reduced physical activity
• Depression
• Increased risk of heart disease
• Sleep problems
• Increased risk of early death

How to Feel Less Alone

• Reduce the stigma: Talk openly about your feelings of loneliness with trusted friends, family, or a mental health professional.
• Be intentional about connecting: Make an effort to spend time with others, either in person or online.
• Reframe negative thoughts: Challenge negative beliefs you may have about yourself and your circumstances. Remind yourself that loneliness is not a sign of your worth.

Activities for Dealing with Loneliness

• Engaging in self-care activities: Take time for activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature.
• Exploring New Interests: Step out of your comfort zone and try new hobbies or activities that might help you meet new people.
• Joining a Community Group: Look for groups that align with your interests, such as book clubs, sports teams, or volunteer organizations.

If you're struggling with loneliness, it's important to address these feelings promptly, especially if they persist or interfere with your daily life. Seeking support from friends, family, a mental health professional, or a loneliness intervention program can make a significant difference in your well-being.