Infatuation: I Think I’m in Love, But Am I?

Distinguishing between different emotions can be challenging, especially when trying to decipher between infatuation and love. This article aims to provide clarity by discussing attraction, infatuation, love, lust, and lovesickness. A quiz is also included to help you assess your feelings.

Attraction:

Attraction is the initial stage of a potential relationship. It involves physical and emotional attraction to another person. Dopamine and norepinephrine, neurotransmitters associated with pleasure and arousal, play a significant role in this stage.

Infatuation:

Infatuation is characterized by intense feelings that develop quickly but are not based on a deep understanding of the other person. It is often associated with unrealistic expectations and idealization of the other person. Infatuation can be intense and overwhelming, leading to obsessive thoughts and behaviors.

Lovesickness:

Lovesickness is a state of emotional distress and longing for a person, typically in the context of a romantic relationship. This can include feelings of euphoria, anxiety, and despair. Lovesickness may be accompanied by physical symptoms such as lack of sleep, appetite loss, and stomach knots.

Lust:

Lust is intense sexual desire or attraction to someone. It is driven by hormones like testosterone and estrogen and is focused primarily on physical gratification rather than a deep emotional connection. Lust is often short-lived and can coexist with other emotions such as love and infatuation.

Love:

Love is a profound and enduring emotion that develops over time. It involves a combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment. Love is characterized by a deep affection and caring for another person, along with a willingness to accept and support them unconditionally.

Quiz to Determine If You're In Love:

1. Do you obsessively think and ruminate about the other person?
2. Are your daily activities impaired due to preoccupation with thoughts of the person?
3. Do you idealize the other person and exaggerate their positive qualities?
4. Do you feel emotionally dependent on the other person?
5. Do you experience euphoria when you feel signs of reciprocated love?
6. Do you daydream and fantasize about the person to the detriment of your work?
7. Do you feel anxious and have physical symptoms like heart palpitations when they are not around?
8. Do you feel depressed and despairing if they break up with you?
9. Do you feel like you can't stop thinking about having sex with the person?
10. Do you feel like you crave physical contact with the person above almost anything else?

What Is True Love?

In the advanced stages of a relationship, you develop a strong attachment to your partner. You care about them in a long-lasting way. This bond is meaningful and profound. This person knows your flaws, and you trust them implicitly.

Emotions in a mature, loving relationship are stable and balanced. Doubts and uncertainties fade away, replaced by a sense of knowing and calmness. The hormone oxytocin plays a role in this stage of attachment, fostering bonding and creating a sense of stability and connection.

Keep in Mind:

Experiencing a range of emotions is normal throughout life. It can be challenging to determine whether you are in love or experiencing another emotion. Obsessive and ruminative thoughts about a current, potential, or past partner may benefit from the guidance of a therapist who can provide a safe space to explore these feelings.