Estrangement Hurts, But Chosen Family Can Provide Comfort

Summary:

• Estrangement from family members is a common occurrence in American families.
• Creating new definitions of family, including essential friends, can help alleviate challenges during difficult times, especially the holiday season.

Estrangement, the cutting off of contact with close relatives, often results from discrimination, trauma, or severed values. Many rely on chosen family, a self-selected group of friends, to fill familial roles.

A 2020 study highlights the significance of chosen family dynamics in healthcare experiences for queer and transgender adults, emphasizing the need for further research and education.

Estrangement affects over a quarter of Americans, making it a common experience. Mental health experts offer strategies for comfort and support.

The holiday season can be particularly difficult for those navigating estrangement due to societal expectations and narrow definitions of family.

Spending time with chosen family can be just as valuable as time with biological family, but recognizing potential hurdles is crucial.

Boundaries in chosen family systems can be confusing for both parties. Members of the chosen family should avoid pressure and allow space for the estrangement grief cycle.

Asking questions to understand and support chosen family members' comfort is recommended during celebrations. Providing information about the celebration's schedule can also help relieve anxiety.

There is no one-size-fits-all approach, but dialogue can ensure that individuals feel supported during difficult times.