Setting Boundaries in a Relationship—Your Questions Answered

The Verywell Mind Podcast discusses the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and answers listener questions on topics such as managing boundaries with an emotionally abusive parent, discussing intimacy in a relationship when needs differ and ending contact with an ex-partner.

Managing Boundaries With a Parent

Listener: My emotionally abusive parent continues to violate boundaries. How can I protect my sanity and my child from this torment while maintaining a relationship with their grandparent?

Minaa's Take:

• Recognize that abuse, even if unintentional, is harmful and requires accountability.
• Communicate boundaries clearly and set consequences for violations.
• Accept that your parent may not be capable of change and prioritize your own well-being.
• Protect your child by establishing clear rules and boundaries for interactions with the grandparent.

How to Talk About Intimacy in a Relationship

Listener: As an asexual woman in a relationship with a man, how do I discuss intimacy and different sexual desires?

Minaa's Take:

• Understand that asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by a lack or infrequent experience of sexual attraction.
• Communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your preferences, needs, and desires.
• Discuss non-sexual forms of intimacy and explore ways to grow closer without intercourse.
• Align your relationship goals and expectations to ensure compatibility.

Going No Contact With an Abusive Partner

Listener: How do I deal with confusion and anger after going no contact with an abusive partner?

Minaa's Take:

• Acknowledge and process the complex emotions that arise after ending an abusive relationship.
• Reflect on the reasons for going no contact and the benefits of letting go.
• Engage in healthy coping mechanisms such as journaling, audio journaling, and co-regulation.
• Commit to your decision and remember that missing someone is not a reason to reconnect.

Dealing With a Perpetually Late Friend

Listener: How do I stop feeling guilty about distancing myself from a friend who is consistently late and dismissive of my concerns?

Minaa's Take:

• Recognize that you have the right to set boundaries and expectations in relationships.
• Communicate your concerns and boundaries clearly to your friend.
• Discern whether the friendship can continue given their inability to meet your needs.
• Reframe feelings of guilt by prioritizing your own well-being and respecting your boundaries.