How to Be an Ally to and Within the LGBT+ Community

In recent years, anti-LGBTQIA+ legislation has surged, threatening the mental and physical well-being of those targeted. This has spurred renewed activism and determination within the LGBT+ community to combat discrimination.

Allyship is essential to the well-being of the LGBT+ community, and actions by those outside the community can conserve the energy and well-being of those within it. Being an ally involves more than just claiming the label. Here are practical steps to demonstrate your allyship:

1. Respect Emotional Labor:

   • Avoid asking individuals to disclose their identity or experiences without their consent.
   • Before requesting resources or information, ask if they're comfortable sharing.
   • Respect their time and energy by inquiring about their bandwidth to share.

2. Societal Norms of Respect:

   • Treat LGBT+ individuals with the same respect and courtesy you would extend to anyone.
   • Refrain from asking intrusive questions about their identity or relationships.
   • Avoid making assumptions about their sexual orientation or gender identity.

3. Personal Boundaries:

   • Don't inquire about an individual's transition or medical history without consent.
   • If you have questions, conduct your own research through online resources or reputable organizations.

4. Acknowledge Biases:

   • Self-awareness is crucial for effective allyship.
   • Recognize your own biases and privileges, and work to overcome them.
   • Be open-minded and willing to grow and learn.

5. Vote and Take Action:

   • Support politicians who champion LGBTQIA+ causes.
   • Encourage local and state leaders to act in support of LGBT+ equality.
   • Thoroughly research candidates before voting to ensure genuine support for the community.

6. Reject Rainbow Capitalism:

   • Be wary of corporations engaging in 'rainbow capitalism' during Pride month.
   • Choose to support businesses actively fighting anti-LGBTQIA+ bills and promoting equality.
   • Support LGBTQIA+-owned businesses to create safe spaces and foster community.

7. Practice Active Listening:

   • When an LGBT+ individual shares their experiences, listen actively without judgment.
   • Be an attentive listener and avoid making assumptions.
   • Allow them to express themselves without interruption.

8. Avoid Self-Centeredness:

   • Resist making conversations about yourself.
   • Refrain from sharing your experiences unless prompted.
   • Center the voices and experiences of LGBT+ individuals.

9. Respect Others' Identities:

   • Believe and respect others' identities without question.
   • Avoid making assumptions about someone's gender identity or sexual orientation based on appearance.
   • Recognize that identities are self-defined and may not conform to societal norms.

By taking these steps, you can demonstrate your allyship to and within the LGBT+ community, contribute to a more inclusive and just society, and create a safe and supportive environment for all.