In the 12-step recovery programs, the concept of anonymity is paramount to the participants. Tradition 12, "Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities," underscores this principle.

To uphold this tradition, personal anonymity is strictly maintained at all levels, including meetings, 12th step work, and mentorship. Preserving anonymity is crucial for individual protection and the preservation of the program as a whole.

Here are personal accounts from individuals in the 12-step programs offering valuable insights into the principles underlying Tradition 12:

Maryann:

Maryann draws a parallel between Tradition 12 and the foundational statement, "No human power could have relieved us from our alcoholism." She explains that no single individual, regardless of stature, can prevent another person from taking that first drink. As such, members of Alcoholics Anonymous are discouraged from idolizing their sponsor or counselor, only to witness their eventual downfall. Maryann asserts, "This program is inherently a 'we' thing for multiple reasons. Deifying a person harms the followers as much as the one being followed."

Chuck:

Chuck highlights the extended version of Tradition 12, which reminds members to practice genuine humility. Upon entering a meeting, individuals are expected to leave their status, titles, and achievements at the door and enter as their authentic selves. This translates into practical actions, such as avoiding formal titles. For instance, a judge is simply addressed as "You" at a meeting, not "Your Honor." As Chuck explains, "We uphold this tradition for three reasons: to genuinely practice humility, prevent self-importance, and to maintain constant gratitude." Within this realm, wealth and education hold no sway; all participants stand on an equal footing. One's accomplishments or societal status have no bearing on what they can gain from or contribute to the program.

Althea:

Tradition 12 emphasizes that the guiding principles of the 12-step program must take precedence over individual opinions. Althea recognizes the temptation to deviate from these principles, especially when someone we deeply care about is in distress. However, such actions compromise the integrity of the principles that serve as the foundation of the program. Althea states, "This is why we must remain unconditionally loyal to the principles, allowing us to unconditionally love one another. This love stems from upholding the principles, not succumbing to the temptation of playing God. When we bypass the process, we deprive the individual of the opportunity to discover the truth of AA's wisdom, allowing them to establish their own. While it may appear beneficial, it is ultimately damaging, both to the individual and the AA community as a whole."

Lyn:

Lyn emphasizes that the omission of last names shifts the focus away from anonymous individuals, transforming the program into a collective "we." Instead of embodying the message, individuals become the carriers of the message. Otherwise, not only their sobriety but the entire AA community is jeopardized.