15 Marriage Counseling Questions to Ask Your Partner

1. Cherished Love: What aspects of our relationship make you feel most valued and treasured?
2. Shared Passions: What activities do we thoroughly enjoy as a couple that bring us closer together?
3. Reconnecting with the Past: Are there beloved activities we used to do together that we could revisit and revive?
4. Joyful Moments: What particular moments in our life together bring you immense happiness?
5. Relationship Challenges: From your perspective, what are the significant obstacles or issues we face in our relationship?
6. Specific Concerns: Can you share specific worries you have about our relationship that you'd like to address?
7. Collaboration for Improvement: How can we work together to enhance the aspects of our relationship that need improvement?
8. Exploring New Experiences: Are there novel activities or experiences you would like us to try as a couple?
9. Comfort Zone: How comfortable do you feel sharing your thoughts and feelings with me? Is there anything I can do to make you feel more at ease?
10. Trust Building: How much do you trust me? What actions can I take to deepen your trust in me?
11. Communication Styles: How effective do you think our communication styles are? Are there ways we can improve our communication to better understand each other?
12. Appreciation and Gratitude: Share a recent instance where you felt truly appreciated by me and why.
13. Marriage Counseling Perspective: What are your thoughts on marriage counseling? Are you open to seeking professional guidance to enhance our relationship?
14. Staying Together: If either of us considered leaving the relationship, what factors would motivate us to remain committed?
15. Unresolved Past: Is there anything from our past that you have hesitated to discuss? If so, why?

Common Sources of Conflict Between Couples:

• Differing perspectives, experiences, and expectations
• Family-related issues
• Intimacy
• Financial matters
• Responsibilities within the household
• Parenting

Addressing Partner's Hesitation Toward Therapy or Disengagement:

• Focus on finding solutions rather than assigning blame.
• Encourage your partner to attend therapy sessions as a team to learn and apply skills together.
• Establish realistic objectives and small, achievable goals.
• Demonstrate patience and understanding, as progress may take time.

Setting a Time Frame for Resolving Issues:

• Consider setting a time limit for resolving your challenges. This can provide early guidance and motivation.
• Commit to at least six months of therapy to witness significant progress as a couple.

Strategies for Preserving Your Marriage:

• Set realistic expectations for your relationship.
• Implement daily check-ins with your partner to discuss fundamental issues.
• These check-ins offer opportunities to share emotions, relate to each other, and reinforce the positive aspects of your relationship.